Develop a healthy self image and find freedom in the world.
I was
listening to Earl Nightingale today and he referred to a man by the name of
Maxwell Maltz. “Uncle Max” outlined four steps that will help one develop a
healthy self image. I see many people who do not have a healthy self image. You
can see them too. They are the people who blame everything for their circumstances.
They are the people who hate the world.
Maxwell
Maltz’s Four Steps
1.
Forgive Others. Forgive them with absolutely no
strings attached.
You do not hurt others when you hold hate against
them; you hurt yourself.
Let go of all of what you perceive as any slight
against you. This can be very difficult. But I can tell you from personal
experience that once you let something go by forgiving someone, you will feel a
sense of calmness come over you.
When holding anger, you will spend so much time
thinking about negative things. You will
be wasting all of your creative imagination. Creative imagination should be
used for positive, worthwhile things. No matter what you think the other person
did to you, your imagination is reflecting on it and making it worse!
You have a worthwhile goal, right? Right? Use your creative
imagination to work on realizing your goal!
2.
Forgive Yourself.
Look at yourself with kind eyes.
Forgive the pain you have caused others. Forget the pain
you have caused yourself. Look at all of your strengths. You are a good person.
Forget all of those small, insignificant things from your past you are not
happy with. They are in the past. Gone. Forever. Chances are, whoever you may
have hurt has long forgiven and forgotten. Focus on the good you can do.
3.
See yourself at your best.
We can start the day in frustration or in
confidence. Take your pick.
Someone said, “Quit comparing your blooper reel to
someone else’s highlights.” Everyone is inferior to everyone else in some ways
and superior to everyone else in other ways. So what if you are not the best at
something. You are terrific in some things. Focus on what you are good at.
Everyone has a “bad” day. Or do they? Remember, you control
your own emotions. Things seem not to be going well, do what your mom told you
to do; count to ten. What is happening to make this so called “bad” day.
Chances are, if you look at the situation and apply theBest You, the day will
change and turn out fr the best.
4.
Keep up with yourself.
Do not worry about what others are doing or have
done.
Do what you want to do and do not worry about
others. Remeber your worthwhile goal? Just be progressively working toward that
and you will feel so much better – especially when you do not focus on what others
are doing.
This was a something I did not do and one of the
first things I did to “turn myself around”. I am a horticulturist. I am not
making a lot of money. I would go to family functions and just sit and compare
myself to those in very highly paid professions such as accounting and law. I
would compare and feel like shit.
On my journey to happiness, I discovered the law of
Keep Up With Yourself. Now I applaud their success, recognizing my own success.
I love Earl Nightingales definition of success, which is, “The progessive realization
of a worthwhile ideal (goal)”.
I first defined my goal, rock solid definition. Then, as I
worked toward my goal, I saw my own success. I was recently presented with
several occasions where someone else’s “success” was pushed toward me (by a very
negative person I add). And honestly, I was expressively happy for that person’s
success. But, I did not compare myself with them.
Be happy
with yourself. Once you are happy with yourself, you will be happy with the
universe. I am only a few years into my “self re creation” but it is a very
good thing. Things that used to bother me are now no longer doing so. Did the
things that bother me change? No. I am in the process of changing.
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