“If you
don't have peace, it isn't because someone took it from you; you gave it away.
You cannot always control what happens to you, but you can control what happens
in you.” - John C. Maxwell
Good morning
all,
I love this
quote from John Maxwell. I got into network
marketing and discovered the path to personal development. I think I
also realized – subconsciously – that I would not be successful until I became
the man I wanted to be. Some people might think that sounds very weird but it
is absolutely true. If you want to be a millionaire, act like a millionaire.
Not spend like one – act like one.
I was
driving to Ottawa once when I was listening to an interview Darren Hardy was
conducting with John Maxwell. John said, “Everything rises and falls with
leadership.” Once I heard that and discovered John Maxwell my life started to
change a little more dramatically.
I was a very
angry person. It wasn’t until I started this journey that I realized that everything
was my doing. It wasn’t anyone else in my life that was MAKING me angry, I was
allowing them the control to allow myself to become angry.
So what
happens now? Honestly, if I am over tired or if I have had a couple of pints of
beer, the control over my self direction wanes. I tend to react poorly in those
times. I have to go through a very conscious effort not to CONTROL myself but
to reason with myself. There is no reason to get angry.
Its funny
this all came about this morning. Yesterday, my business partner – Todd – and I
were working on a townhouse we are renovating. Todd kept dropping screws as we
were trying to hang a door. He and I were chatting about how he can handle the
big things but the screws dropping were driving him nuts. I understood.
What I have
learned is I cannot control the things that happen to me. I can’t control
gravity. I can’t control other people. I can’t control the weather. But what I
do have 100% control over is myself. I can control my mind, how I HEAR and FEEL
what is happening to me. I can control HOW I react to those things. Each and
every day I try to do that. It works.
I guess what
my real message is this morning has to do with a very positive word and one of
my favourite words. PEACE. I am becoming, more and more each day at peace with
myself. I am accepting myself with the understanding that I am working each day
to IMPROVE myself. A leader in the company I am an IBO in – ACN – Larry Raskin
says something along the lines that we are not human beings, we are human
BECOMINGS!
So each day
I am working very hard to BECOME a better man. I was doing great for a while. I
didn’t go backward but I coasted. And when you coast you lose momentum, you lose
speed, you lose motivation. I started
back up about a week ago. I already feel like a million bucks!
One last
thought along these lines before I finish up. Try to treat each and every
person you come in contact with as if they are the most important person in the
universe. Why should you do that? Well, to them, as Earl Nightingale says, they
ARE the most important person in the universe. When you make other people feel
good the Universe conspires in your favour and all of a “sudden”, you will feel
the same way you are trying to make others feel.
Happy
trails!
